Surely many of you have been subjected to these...Events.
Some management fool decides that in order to assemble a good team, they
must force together a bunch of strangers and make them do things.
Who the hell thinks this is a good idea? Do they not realise that every
single shy person loathes them. They're not given enough time to suss
the terrain before introducing themselves to people, they have to stand
up in front of strangers and reveal things. Torture.
Nothing worse than subjecting risk averse people to abseiling or things
like that, it isn't empowering, it's a subtle form of domination.
I never had problems with these courses myself even though I hated the
artificiality of them, I care not for others until I know them, and have
no real shame or boundary to honestly expressing myself e.g. "My name
is X, and I hate this kind of activity. I hope to survive this week by
doing as little as possible and sitting quietly in the corner of the
bar. If anybody prefers chat over enforced jocularity, then join me."
The trainer usually shits them-self at this point, but I make the usual
one of two excellent friends out of it, and everybody else knows not to
When being forced into "Decision making" activities with a new group, I
resent how some prig always tries to be the leader, and the sheep
instantly turn to them. When it becomes apparent that they're making
poor decisions, I usually speak for the first time and stop the self
anointed leader in their tracks with a simple and direct solution. I'm
usually ignored until the team fucks up, and then the sheep decide that
maybe I am worth something.
Now I have just had to 'lead' one of these events and the feedback I
have received from the participants has been superb. Why? Simple. I
opened with a session in the bar, saw who sat together, ensured that
everybody had a friend when it came to actually doing something. We went
to museums, we went to a race meeting at night. We drove go-karts and
the leader-board was an 'only if you want to,' affair. We went to a
comedy club, and my lectures were all very matter of fact and free of
bullshit and I invited people to give their own examples rather than
simply talk at them with my ideas.